Saturday, December 31, 2011

Thursday, December 29, 2011

The Organization Guide for Your Life: Life's To Short

The Organization Guide for Your Life: Life's To Short: When thinking about my life for the last year I knew I needed to change alot of things before I could go into the new year living the way I'...

Life's To Short

When thinking about my life for the last year I knew I needed to change alot of things before I could go into the new year living the way I'm living now.  Being unhappy isn't away to live your life so, I had to make some changes in my life and the people that where in my life.  Once I looked around and all I could see where people who wanted something from me.  And, this is when I found myself saying that I was so very unhappy with the way I was living.  So, I made a decision to change what I listen to and who I hung around.  As I started this change I've notice that I feel better and I think clearer when it comes to me making decision for my life.  I finally feel comfortable with the people around me and I know now that it's not what I have or don't have it's just me when it comes to the people that are around me now and I truly feel free.  

Life is to short to do things that don't please God or yourself. So, if you are doing anything that make your life not worth living then you need to look at the people around you and the things you're doing.  This will give you a true picture of how your life is working it will show you the good and the bad in your life.  So, before the New Year comes in review your pass year so that you don't take negative thing into your future.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Style Constant: Organizing Your Office

Style Constant: Organizing Your Office: Tips for a Organized Office

Disorganized Office Desk
1) Clean out each desk drawer, to free up even more valuable storage space. 2...

Business Etiquette

"How to Excuses Yourself from the Table"

As the entree plates are being cleared, there is natural ebb in the meal.  Should you need to visit the restroom, this is an appropriate time to do so.  When leaving the table, regardless of the reason, you should simply say, "Excuse me".  Don't share your need for a restroom, cigarette, or phone call.  There's such a thing as too much information and tell everyone why you are leaving the table is to much information.  Once you have excused yourself, stand and exit from the right side of your chair, lay your napkin on the seat of your chair, push your chair into the table and walk away.  Don't stand over other and continue to talk, just leave and return to your chair as quickly as possible so that know one feels the need to wait for you to order dessert.

Monday, December 5, 2011

Style Constant: Business Tips

Style Constant: Business Tips: Business Etiquette Tip #1 If you have ever had a strong positive or negative reaction to someone based on the firmness or weakness or the...

Friday, December 2, 2011

Style Constant: Quote of the Day

Style Constant: Quote of the Day: "Your Mindset" Today, I went to an event and the topic was your mindset. And one of the things the keynote speaker spoke about was that ...

Monday, November 21, 2011

Style Constant: Quote of the Day

Style Constant: Quote of the Day: One of the Most Basic Yet Important Principles a Christian can ever Learn is that of OBEDIENCE!!! This is a very true statement but so ...

Friday, November 18, 2011

Going Through

You must prepare yourself mentally for Success and Blessings, because it can sometime be more difficult to receive then failure....  
by: Shondale Davis

When I first heard this statement it made me think about my life and all the things I've done with the success and blessings in my life.  And, I realized that if I would have been better prepared for my success I would have done they very different.  I wouldn't have spent money like there was no tomorrow, but I would have made plans and set goals for my future.  So, when I heard this statement all I could think was how many people have had success and blessings come to them and they mess it up by doing things without thinking about it.  But if like me you have done all the wrong things with your success and blessings you can turn the situation around for the better.  Just started today by doing better things with your success such as helping other achieve success and this way you are paying it forward.  When you know better you will do better...change your chooses and the new success and blessings will come with a whole new outlook on life.  Ms. Davis is a very smart woman because this statement has changed my thinking and as you read this statement I hope for you that it changes your thinking..Be blessed and have great success in your life...

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Style Constant: Quote of the Day

Style Constant: Quote of the Day: "When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them" by Maya Angelou My statement today is this "why is it when someone shows you their tr...

Monday, October 24, 2011

Style Constant: Business Tips

Style Constant: Business Tips: Partnering Up in Business Does another business offer a service or technology that would enhance your business or help reduce expenses? Co...

Style Constant: Fashion Tips

Style Constant: Fashion Tips: "The Holiday Season is Here...It's Time for Parties" Evening Bag Statement

This bag should fit securely in your grasp, be it long, s...

Style Constant: Quote of the Day

Style Constant: Quote of the Day: "When You Know Better You Do Better" by Oprah Winfrey My question today is "if you know better are you doing better?" Are you living the ...

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Style Constant: Business Tips

Style Constant: Business Tips: Business Tip for Today Before you started a new business you need to have the road map for where you want the business to go.. A busine...

Style Constant: Fashion Tips

Style Constant: Fashion Tips: The Bold Trench

The three quarter length tan topcoat became famous doing the World War I time. Very similar to the way army camoufla...

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Style Constant: Fashion Tips

Style Constant: Fashion Tips: The Navy Blue Blazer The navy blue blazer stands alone as an American Icon. It's stately shape, strong color, and visual messaging speak to...

Monday, August 29, 2011

"I truly think this is a great book for any Black Woman to read..."

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Style Constant: Michelle's Fashion Tips

Style Constant: Michelle's Fashion Tips: "3 Different Ways to Wear a Crisp White Shirts" Causal Look : Crisp White Shirt with a pair of blue jeans: This look can be your everyday ...

Style Constant: Michelle's Fashion Tips

Style Constant: Michelle's Fashion Tips: "3 Different Ways to Wear a Crisp White Shirts" Causal Look : Crisp White Shirt with a pair of blue jeans: This look can be your everyday ...

10 Tips for a Wealthy Life

  1. Live within my means
  2. Maximize my income potential through education and training
  3. Effectively manage my budget, credit, debt and tax obligations
  4. Save at least 10% of my income
  5. Use home ownership as a foundation for building wealth
  6. Devise and investment plan for my retirement needs and children's education
  7. Ensure that my entire family adheres to sensible money management principles
  8. Support the creation and growth of minority owned businesses
  9. Guarantee my wealth is passed on to future generations through proper insurance and estate planning
  10. Strengthen my community through servicing and volunteering
These are some of the life lesson I've learned and they have helped me change my life...

Monday, July 18, 2011

Style Constant: Study: Women Who Cheat Do More Sexting

Style Constant: Study: Women Who Cheat Do More Sexting: "Sexting has been a hot topic on all our tongues since the infamous 'Weinergate' media fiasco. Much of the debate points to men as being ..."

Study: Women Who Cheat Do More Sexting

Study: Women Who Cheat Do More Sexting

Sexting has been a hot topic on all our tongues since the infamous "Weinergate" media fiasco. Much of the debate points to men as being the usual culprit of such "devious" behavior, but a new study reveals that women may be equally guilty, if not more.

Here's the surprise: married women who already admit to cheating on their spouses are apparently the ones sexting. Diane Kholos Wysocki and Cherly D. Childers, both sociology professors at the University of Nebraska at Kearney, recently released results of a study they conducted on adult visitors of, a popular infidelity community, which asked 68 questions about sexual behavior and internet usage, reports The Huffington Post. Two thirds of the women surveyed admit to sending sexual text messages. Only half of the men surveyed were guilty.

The results of the survey are considered questionable given that it was optional, not random, and based solely on those who are open to infidelity, however, they do offer a chance to discuss a trend that could be emerging among married individuals.

“Cheating is alive and well, and sexting is on the rise,” said Dr. Kholos Wysocki. “But I don’t believe the Internet is causing people to cheat. There seems to be something going on with marriage that’s the bigger social issue. Before, people would just get a divorce. For some reason, people are staying and cheating instead.”

Reliability aside, these results can't be good for marriage, period. Do you think sexting while married is cheating? Could you forgive your spouse.

This is from Essence Magazine

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Monday, July 11, 2011

Hooking Up with Your Ex: Do or Don't?

This was a great article in Essence Magazine check it out....
Sex With Your Ex: Do or Don't?
When it comes to anything involving an ex, it’s safe to say things can get pretty complicated. Especially when sex is on the table. Sleeping with an ex is a classic guilty pleasure. So often you want to do it, but you don’t always feel good about it afterwards. Let’s face it, being intimate with someone you’re not seeing seriously can equal instant drama. 

We wanted to know what you thought the rules of ex-sex should be so we posed the question to Facebook fans. We asked you to tell us what the dos and don’ts of sleeping with an ex are and an overwhelming 96 percent of those who answered say it’s just a “don’t”. Those few in support offered some rules to follow to keep the drama at bay.

Here’s a look at what you told us:

Those opposed said…

“The right one will come along and I'm patiently waiting but in the mean time I'm doin me!” – Leslie Jones Edwards

“A ex is just that, an ex. My mother always told me when you are done with your ex leave him or her because they don't miss a good thing until it is gone.” – Jeanetta Hughes

“The biggest don't is DON"T DO IT! There's a reason it didn't work and break up sex only makes it more difficult to make the necessary emotional break.” – TIFFTalks

“They're an ex for a reason. In my opinion, there's too many past emotions involved that can add layers of drama. Making that u-turn may cost you more than what you bargained for. It's just unnecessary drama.” – Raquel Garcia

“I think if you keep going backwards you can not move forward. Remember it for what it was worth and move on!” – Anissa Whitby-Daniels

“It doesn't allow you to totally move on and start the healing process. Just say NO!” – Shermone Mitchell

Those for it said…

“Don't do more than you're comfortable with and keep expectations to a minimum.” – Ayanna Robinson

“There is nothing wrong with sexing the ex as long as you know it is just sex.” – Paula Jones

“Sex with an ex is ok if 1. Both of you must not be in a relationship. 2. He must be mentally mature and not up to his old tricks literally. 3. The feelings must be mutual. 4. You must protect yourself and ask him to show you his test results.” – Kimbervic Fuqua

“DO NOT LAY AND CUDDLE! BIG NO NO.” – Marie Stewart Lymon

“The biggest do! Have fun and enjoy the moments of pleasure.” – Markia Wilkinson

“If the sex is good but the ex isn't, its hard to break away!” – Bertina Groves-Williamson

“There is nothing wrong with it as long as both parties can keep it at ‘it's just sex’. The problem arises when one or both see it for more than what it really is.” – Damien Stamps

Are you for or against ex-sex? Would you consider it a guilty pleasure? Can sex ever be “just sex” with someone you have feelings for?

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Monday, July 4, 2011

Looks fade and then what do you HAVE!!!

What if You Didn't have Great Looks?

If you where always being told you where so beautiful and your looks would always get you things or in place other couldn't get or get in.  Then suddenly you lost those beautiful look, What else do you have? Or does your look define your total being.  If this is true then you have missed the true purpose for what you where put on this earth for.  Basically, you've missed your total life goals and dreams....  I believe that it's nice to look good, but it's wonderful to be intelligent, caring, knowledgeable, helpful, etc. these are qualities that don't fade as time goes on.  These qualities are more important then looks they will take you places in life and they will keep you their...

So, tell me is your looks the best thing you have to achieve your dreams and goals in your future?  Let me know what you think about this subject...

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

What Would You Do If Your Spouse Said They Where Gay?


Okay, this is the situation and once I finish telling you the story please let me know how you feel or what you would do if this was you and your husband. 

I was reading a blog of a pass employer and he announced to his wife of seventeen years and there seven kids that he was gay.  He said when they first met he knew that he had these feelings and he told her what he was feeling.  When he told her she told him that there was nothing that would change the way she felt about him.  The next day he went and purchased a ring and asked her to marry him and you said yes and they got  married.  Even with this secret hanging over there heads they decided to continue on with there lives.  Now, after all these years he decides to come out of the close and live his life as a gay man.  

Now, my question is if you where in this situation "what would you do if your husband came home and told you this?"  I think this is a great subject and I can't wait to hear what you think about this situation..
"Would you stay with your husband, wife or partner if they told you they wanted to live as a gay person after 17 years?"

This isn't put down being gay this is all about how this situation went.  So, please don't think I'm talking bad about gay people...

Let me know what you think.......

Friday, June 24, 2011

The Trend for the Summer

One Shoulder Ruffle Romper
Rompers are the new it thing for the summer and young women are wearing them everywhere.  Women of all ages and all sizes are wearing them but this shouldn't be the case.  Women if you're thinking about purchasing a Romper you have to make sure that your body type is made to wear it.  Rompers are great in my opinion for the slimmer women because they are made to look a little baggie.  They can be worn with sandals or heels they can be dressed up or down and still look great.  This is a trend that looks great no matter how you put it together.  If you are over the age of 40 you shouldn't have this outfit on it's not for the more mature women.  So, young women have fun with this trend and wear them well....

Monday, June 20, 2011

Relaxed vs. Natural Hair

Women are talking about it, tweeting about it, blogging about it. Frankly, I'm beginning to feel a that I missed the boat.  I spoke with a few friends about their new transitions to natural hair and they all rave about how great they now feel about their hair and they want me to started going though the change from Relaxed Hair to Natural Hair.  

One of my girlfriend goes to the salon every week to get the treatment that makes her hair look like she has a relaxer, but she doesn't which makes me think that you can have both the look of relaxed hair and really it's natural.  This look is great for her because her hair looks so very healthy and it has grown so much.  She is truly happy with her look and I think it's great.... 

Then I have another girlfriend that is natural at all times and  she keeps her hair  loose and it also looks great on her.  Because she knows how to keep her hair together she always looks like she just walked out of a salon.

I'm more of the relaxed kind of girl and at this point it works for me because I don't have the courage at this time to go from relaxed to natural.  Maybe one day I will but until then I will just be the girlfriend with relaxed hair.  And let my wonderful girlfriends do the natural thing.

Tell me what you think about the difference between relaxed and natural hair?  Which side of the coin are you on? Let me know because I love talking with individuals who love talking about hair, makeup, and fashion....

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Jewelry Wardrobe

"How To Add Some Shine and Know Which Pieces Suit You Best"
  • Avoid Matchy-Matchy:  Yes you want your pieces to complement each other and be of the same mood and level of formality.  But combining is now more of a personal statement and less about following the law of similar.
  • Make a Single Statement:  In general the more sparkle in your clothes, the less you need in your jewelry.  One outsize piece is often enough, and you should always watch the proximity of big or bold pieces.  Chandeliers and a cuff bracelet can work together, but chandeliers with a chunky necklace are too much, too close.

  • Consider the Shape of Your Face:  If your face is round, then round earrings (especially large ones that sit on the lobe) will only make cheeks look more full.  Instead, choose a dangling or drop earring.  Square faces look best with small, oval or oblong earrings; oval faces can wear just about any earring.
  • Make Your Necklace Work for Your Neck:  Long styles (chains, lariats, etc.) flatter those with short necks, broad shoulders or short torsos, whereas chokers are best for longer necks.
  • Find a Ring That Flatters Your Fingers:  The shape of a stone will determine how it looks on your hand, if you're conscious of your fingers being stubby, marquis shapes or ovals give the illusion of length and slenderness.

Sunday, June 12, 2011


"What does it mean to have a true Friendship?"

I was sitting having lunch with a couple of my girlfriends and I posted the question to them "What is true Friendship?" and each one of them had a view on the question...  One of them said that you can only have a few true friends because if you have a lot then those aren't truly true friends.  And what she meant was that you have all types of friends but you only have a couple of true friends.  Those are the ones you tell everything and you don't hold anything back.  They know the good, bad, and ugly about you and you're still friends.  

My other girlfriend put it like this when you are true friends you can go through arguments and disagreements that are truly bad and you will still come out friends.  Those are the friends who are in your inner circle no matter what comes up in life you will always be friends. 

In my opinion true friendship is being able to go through the ups and the downs whether problems about your family members or disagreements with either other and still say that's my friend and I will always have her back.  This is truly a friendship worth having and I thank God I have a few of those kind of friendships now.  This is a pic of me and my two of my true girlfriends.......

Tell me what you think true friendship is all about...I look forward to everyones comments....

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Networking vs. Social Climbing

What's the Difference Between Networking and Social Climbing?

This is just my opinion, but there's not a lot of difference in the two.  Both take you out of your comfort zone and you have to talk to individuals you have never met, but if you do your introduction correctly then you aren't a social climber you are now a networker.  You may say that this fact isn't true, but I beg to differ with that.  People think a social climber should never be let into the elite circle of friends, but if that some person is networking then the elite will gladly welcome that same person into there circle because now this same person is worthy.  So, you see there's always a way of going up the social ladder without it being a negative in life.....      

Friday, June 3, 2011

Sensual Seduction Quiz

1. I like to drizzle chocolate....
    (a) Directly into my mouth from the bottle
    (b) Into my child's milk
    (c) Over premium ice cream for a late nigh treat
    (d) Onto the plate before serving a romantic dessert
    (e) Onto strawberries we eat in bed with our fingers

2. The best lighting for dinner date is....
    (a) Daylight I'll save tons ordering the early bird special
    (b) Compact fluorescent. It's great to be green
    (c) Bright enough so that we can easily read the menu
    (d) Dim enough so that we can fool around in the booth
    (e) Firelight and candles we'll have a gourmet picnic in front of the fireplace and take dessert to the   bedroom

3. At midnight in my bedroom you will likely hear....
    (a) Football on the television
    (b) Snoring or Nothing
    (c) Bats in the air
    (d) Romantic Music
    (e) Sizzling Sexy

4. Ice Cubes are great for....
     (a) Reducing swelling after you hit you leg
     (b) Cooling you tongue after drinking something hot
     (c) Too get the romance started in your bedroom
     (d) Shaking up a signature martini you named after your boo

5. Ladies ONLY: When it's time to undress...
     (a) You talk about how much weight you need to lose
     (b) In the bathroom so your partner doesn't see you
     (c) You catch him looking so you put on a  little show
     (d) You turn off the lights so he can't see you

6. Gents ONLY: I put more bass in my voice to...
      (a) Get the upper hand when she and I argue
      (b) Leaving your partner a sexy phone message
      (c) Call her name so she knows you're ready for love making
      (d) So the dog and kids will listen to you

7. To celebrate a promotion a work I would...
     (a) Buy myself a present
     (b) Take my partner/spouse out to a romantic dinner for two
     (c) Get a massage
     (d) Go home  and make love to your spouse until day break

8. I generally sleep in....
     (a) Sweatpants and a tee shirt
     (b) Sexy Lingerie
     (c) Flannel PJ's
     (d) Birthday Suit

A: Sensual Self-Saboteur
B: Ascetic
C: Pragmatisit:
D: Sensualist

Friday, May 20, 2011

Retro Chic

Retro Chic isn't in unless you are in the lower east side of New York.  If you are in Charleston, SC you need to take the Retro look to the local Goodwill or the nearest Thrift Store... I'm not saying that Retro Chic is a bad thing but very few people can pull off this look. You must know your body type before you start dressing it with the newest trends or the vintage look.  I truly believe that everyone has a style but some individuals need to explore there style more especially if you fined yourself wearing Retro Chic....This would included not only your clothes but you hair styles also.  I believe imaging or branding yourselves is wonderful.  But, is it imaging or branding when you are the only one who thinks you look fashionable...

So, what do you think is Retro Chic?

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Friendship, Right or Wrong for You

How do you know when your friendship with someone is over?

When you started to grow and the people around you started to say it doesn't take all of that to have a successful lifestyle.  This is the first sign that you don't have the right people in you circle of friends.  A true friend will always push you to get better and when you get better those same friends will be there to celebrate you and celebrate your successes.  When you tell your friends that you're living your dreams and they can see that you are living the way you have always wanted to.  And, those friends tell you that they think you should slow down and be careful because you could lose everything you have worked so very hard for then those are friends you need to weed out of your life.

Sometimes, people want you to stay in one space because they don't want to see the dreams and goals in their own lives that they haven't accomplished.  

These are something you need to look for when you are getting into a friendship or a friendship you already have:
  • Does this person bring anything to the friendship?
  • When you go out is he/she always looking for you to pick up the tap?
  • When you are in need of help does he/she step up to help you or does he/she step in the background and say nothing?
  • If when you are around him/her you feel like they are always looking for a argument with you that's not a friendship.  That's a wolf in sheep clothing..
  • When you meet new people and they are happier for you than you so called friend just move on and get that person or those people out of you world...
Remember, these are just a few key things to look at when you are looking at true friendship...Because if a person is around you just for what they can get then you can do without those kinds of people around you.  You will never go where you need to if you have a ball and chain around your neck in the form of a friend. Think about these thing and clean out your friend closet.  Because when you clean out the old something new and better will come along, but as long as you have that old friendship you will never meet you new and true friends.....

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

How do you know if you married the right person? cont.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because, THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO TO make your marriage work.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship Will make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable - you can "make" love.

Remember, LOVE and DEDICATION it always work if you continue on a daily effort....

Monday, May 9, 2011

How do you know if you married the right person?

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fe
ll in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.  Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In 
fact, it was a completely spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love - because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my 
feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.  Falling in love is easy. It's a passive, spontaneous experience.  But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is 

not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages break down. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

Stay tune for more we're just getting started!!!!!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Is YOUR Mindset Holding You Back?

Where you are in your life does not determine where you are going, it is just a reflection of your achievements or failures.  So you haven't made your first million yet, keeping pressing towards that mark.  Don't you know consistency is the key. Hang arounnd people who have achieved you are aspiring to obtain and ask them if you can intern with them.  You have to count the cost for whatever you are aspiring to be or do.

You can not be lazy. If you are not willing to work your vision, please believe no one else is going do it for you.  If you are the type of person that have grand ideas and goals, but you loose focus easily, my question to you is What is your purpose?  Why do you want to do what you do?  Who is it going to benefit?  Can you do this for free and still produce a great product or service?  What is your motivator?  Time, Money, Status, Advancement of Humanity...etc...

I am an event planner/designer and I love what I do.  If I never get a celebrity platform/millioniare status, guess what I a perfectly confident and pleased with what I am and have accomplished thus far. I am sure of my purpose. Money is wonderful and I do want to make lots of it, but my motivator is the passion that I have for my craft/gift.  I know without a doubt that every project that I am a part of is going to be done in excellence, without stress and pressure and the people who part-take in the event will have a memorable time!  I ensure that the team of people that I work with understand the importance of agreement.  We all say the same thing we mind the same thing.  By doing this the end product/service is that of excellence and a happy, stress free client.

Have I had opposition? Yes.  My biggest opposition was my MINDSET.  No one was telling me that I couldn't do it, quite the oppose I have a great support system.  I was just afraid.  What if I failed? What if I get rejected? counter questions are What if you don't fail?  What if you don't get rejected?  I constantly said to MYSELF you can do's great to have a support system but you have to be the main supporter.  You must believe in yourself and the abilities that GOD have given you.  I know I do...

This is a great statement by: Valerie Taylor of "A Taylor Events"

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

How To Dress Up A Poufy Skirt

A Poufy Skirt

Ultrafeminine full skirts are a big trend right now.....

1. Go Long: Look for ones that stop four inches below the knee...
2. Waist Not, Want Not:  To keep from getting lost in all that fabric, emphasize your waist.
3. Show Some Skin:  Skip stockings and tights a little flash of skin is a nice counterpoint
4. Get Some Height:  Heels are mandatory with this look, but that doesn't mean spindly stilettos.  Choose pumps with stacked heels, or consider kitten heels, this will give you a little lift.

Monday, March 28, 2011

Top 10 Essential for your Wardrobe Ladies

10 Wardrobe Essential for Women

1. Basic black dress. Don’t necessarily think little black dress here, especially if it’s critical that you put together a good career or interview wardrobe; what works well as a good wardrobe essential is a basic black shell dress that can be worn with a cardigan or blazer, dressed up with a scarf, or just worn by itself with a simple strand of pearls.

2. Trench Coat. This is a wildly popular piece right now, with budget-minded places such as Target and Old Navy selling them in a range of bright colors and patterns; those are certainly fun, but make sure you have a good basic trench in a neutral color before you go nuts with all the colorful options. Look for one that’s lined, includes a belt, and has a good, classic fit (single- or double-breasted is up to you and should be whichever looks best on you).

3. Classic dress pants. This is one piece where fit is critical. You need to know which styles look best on you, but a good mid-rise with a slightly wide, flared leg is flattering on just about everyone. Look for quality construction, because you’ll want these to last, and you should also go for a good fabric like a lightweight worsted wool or poly blend. Darks or neutrals are best for color, because they’ll be the most versatile with other pieces.

4. Classic white shirt. This may be a recommended “piece” for your wardrobe, but I’d recommend having 2 or 3 of these, perhaps in a color or two in addition to white (off white or blue work well). Places like the Gap have these as a year-round staple, so they’re easy to find. On days where you’re running late and can’t decide what to wear, grab this, a cardigan and your dress pants, and you’re set.

5. Skirt. Think knee-length or slightly (but not too much) above the knee. A-line, straight or pencil skirt are all flattering on almost everyone, and can be paired endlessly with other items. As with the pants, you’re best served to go with a dark or neutral for greater versatility.

6. Blazer. Nipped-in profiles with 3/4 sleevess are all the rage now, but don’t think that means you have to overlook a classically tailored blazer. Those never go out of style, and will probably have greater wardrobe longevity than the shrunken variety that dominates right now. That said, the more fitted, smaller silhouette can be extremely flattering, and is a knockout combo with a pencil skirt (or paired with jeans). Again, know what looks best on you.

7. Day Dress. This can be something as simple and basic as a shirtdress, or something trendier, like a kimono-style dress. Try to choose something that works well with the rest of your wardrobe, especially if you’re on the interview trail. A blazer over a shirtdress, for example, is a workable alternative to the more traditional business suit uniform.

8. Cashmere sweater. Gunn has this on the list because it’s a classic, and because they wear well with good care. You can throw this together with a skirt or pants for an easy, elegant work outfit, and feel good about yourself with the luxurious touch of that soft knit against the skin. Feeling good about ourselves is as important as looking good, and having a piece like this in your wardrobe is a functional indulgence.

9. Jeans. Good jeans, specifically–not ratty, torn or acid-washed jeans. Not faded jeans. Look for a good dark jean that fits you as a good pair of dress pants would–in other words, do not buy jeans so tight they look like they’re painted on. The same rule for fit with dress pants applies here, too–a mid-rise with a slightly wide, flared leg (or boot-cut, in jeans) is a great look. They’re most flattering paired with heels, but if you’re just not in the mood to wear heels with your jeans, at least go for a modest heel–my go-to is a good pair of cowboy boots with a 2-inch heel. It gives a longer, slimmer look.

10. A comfortable alternative to a sweat suit. This is the only item on which I differ from Uncle Tim; I’ve just never liked sweat suits, even the “dressier” French velour sets that are so popular now, but that’s me. There are some darling matched sweat suits out there, so if that’s what you feel comfy in on weekends, go for it. I’ll make no. 10 “jeans, part 2,” and keep a spare pair around.