Friday, May 29, 2015

The Naked Truth Revealed: Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT

The Naked Truth Revealed: Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT: When I got married I thought it was forever but it didn't happen like that so I had to started over.  Now I didn't get a divorce m...

Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT

When I got married I thought it was forever but it didn't happen like that so I had to started over.  Now I didn't get a divorce my husband passed away but what I've learned is that if it's a divorce or a death it can fill the same way.  Women and Men have told me that it's worst when you have a divorce than when there's a death because with a divorce the person is still walking around where you can still see them all the time.  And when I thought about it I realized that these individuals were correct both divorce and death of someone you Loved hurts just as bad.  So, I started to ask questions about how hard was it for them to started over again and to my surprise a lot of them were having a really hard time at it...  Some couldn't rap there heads around the fact that the person they had Loved for such a long time wasn't there with them anymore... others where stuck in the position of they couldn't believe that the person they'd Loved for so long didn't want to be with them anymore for whatever reason... and then there was those who where still living like the person was coming back to them and then there was those who where like me that was just lost in the madness of there everyday lives...  Know matter what the situation was I found that it wasn't easy for all these individuals to started there lives over after they believe that they had found the Loves of there lives.  So I decided to ask some more individuals about "how they started over and how was it when they realized they had to started over in order to survive?"  And this is what I learned from them...

One woman told me that one day she woke up and Life had just passed here by and she couldn't remember years of her Life because she was going through the motions but not really living her Life. Once she realize that Life wasn't waiting for her to finish grieving her relationship she pick herself up and started one day at a time too Live the Life she had now not the Life she had with her spouse, partner, etc... it was had but day by day she got better until one day she was living and everything was normal again at least it was her knew normal an she was enjoying her Life again...  When I saw the smile on her face I knew that she was truly happy and it was worth all the pain she was feeling because she had made a knew friend (herself) and it was awesome. You see she knew that one she had to stop living in the pass with her ghost of the pass but she needed to live in her past with her reality which was that she was single and that wasn't going to change unless she got out and met knew individuals.  She knew it was going to be easy but it was truly worth the pain of starting over and now she's living everyday to the fullest because you can't depended on anyone to make you happy that's a job only you can do for yourself...  This is what she let me know she learn through the whole process of becoming the individual she is today... You see she had been a good wife, great mother, good sister, good daughter and a great friend to everyone in here Life but she had never spent enough time being great to herself so when she was left alone she was lost... thank God now she knows that she was never alone just a little lost...  You may say while what happen to this individual and how's her Life going now?  I can tell you that she is doing AWESOME and I know this because this woman is ME...  Lose isn't easy at all but you can overcome it and move pass it...

I've learn that things happen to you everyday and they will continue to happen but it how you as an individual handles them as to how they are going to effect you Life an so I say to everyone reading this you must LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH because LIFE is just to short to waste on what was...  I hope you enjoyed my Life Story an you come bad for more...  Be Blessed and Keep Your Head Up at all Times because you don't want you LIFE to pass you by....  SMOOOCHESSS!!!



Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Is It Real LOVE

Everyone needs to remember that Love is a strong emotion an when you're saying it to someone make sure you are ready for what comes along with the word.  I know there are a lot of people that said the words I Love You an don't have a clue as to what it really takes to Love someone.  I can only speak from a women's point of view but if you are in a relationship with someone before the words I Love you comes out of your mouth make sure you mean it.  Don't play with someones heart or there emotions because you could do damage to that individual that will never be repaired and when that person goes into there next relationship the new person will suffer from your action.  Falling in Love is a beautiful thing just know who you're falling in Love with before you commit your heart to someone because they may not be capable of Loving you the way you deserve to be Love.  I've learned a lot about Love in the last two years and I found out that just because someone says they Love you doesn't mean they really do.  I fell in Love with someone who just didn't know how to Love me an because of that we aren't together today.  Now, I'm sure that if you asked him did I know how to Love him he would say I didn't.    But I can say that I've learned a lot about pain and heartbreak most of all I've learned about how to Love someone with all my heart and for that I'm so very thankful.   Love is an emotion that most people really don't know how to handle and other abuse.  And I've learn in these last two and half years how Love isn't something you can't control it's something you freely do and hope that the person you're doing it with Loves you the same way.  If I could say anything to all the individuals who read this blog it would be Love yourself so that when Love comes your way you know what it looks like.  It's not going to always going to be a walk in the park but if it's Love it will be worth it.  You may say how do you know that and I would say to you "what is life if you don't have Love?"  It can be a very lonely life without someone to Love... As human beings we are made to be in Love so if you Love someone don't let anything stand in the way of you being with that person because you may not find that kind of Love again in your lifetime...

Remember:  Love isn't easy but it's always worth fighting for....so don't let it disappear because you didn't have your way.  Love is more than having your way it's work and sometimes it knowing how to pick your battles or just knowing how to let the other person have their way...  Love is always Give and Take...



SMOOOCHESSS!!!
                                                                            

Sunday, April 5, 2015

What EASTER is truly about

Easter is the day we celebrate JESUS CHRIST and His resurrection...  We celebrate the Love of CHRIST and what He did for all of us...  So today remember that it's not about the way you put you outfit together, the way you wear your hair, the eggs you hide for you kids to find, the Easter Bunny or the food you cook today.  It's about how much you Love CHRIST and how much he Loved you, so when you go out today to church, lunch, or where ever you're going today thank GOD for the chance to celebrate the one who gave His life for all of us JESUS CHRIST...  Today remember that this day all about the Love of CHRIST...what He has done for you and the ones you Love...  This is just a note to all my readers to remind you about what's important today an that's JESUS CHRIST our Savior...  Enjoy the life you're living, the love ones you have and the friends you have because that's what this life you've been giving is all about...

Have a Blessed Easter!!!

SMOOOCHESSS!!!

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day

This is a day when LOVE is in the air and everyone wants to be with that special someone. GIFTS are been given and received an LOVE is been show.  No one is thinking of doing anything but LOVING there spouses, partners, friends and family.  They will go to know ends to show them how much they mean to them. VALENTINE'S DAY is a holiday you give out flowers, candy, jewelry and lots of LOVE but after today can you continue to give that LOVE freely without hesitation?  I believe this is a time when you open your heart to all possibilities and you don't hold back because as I always say LIFE is just to short to be in the world alone.  You may not think that there's anyone out there for you but there is and if you don't have that special someone this moment just know that YOU can still have a special VALENTINE'S DAY.  If you'll learn how to treat yourself on VALENTINE'S DAY then when that special someone comes in your life they will know how to treat you because you will have all ready establish how LOVE feels for and to you.  In this big old world there's know woman or man that is a island by themselves but you can enjoy your island until that special someone comes to enjoy it with you, but when they come be open to letting them in don't forget the island is made for two...  So today if you don't have that special VALENTINE it's okay just get to know the person you are so that when he or she comes they'll know how to enjoy this very special day with you.  And, most of all they will know how to enjoy LIFE with you.  Don't limit yourself to someone else giving you flower, candy, jewelry, etc. give it to yourself because the one thing that's for sure you'll always get the gift correct.  Remember, today is the DAY everyone celebrates LOVE and if you're in a RELATIONSHIP or not in a RELATIONSHIP you're still LOVED.  Now, it VALENTINE'S DAY make sure you enjoy it because it's worth enjoying with your special person or by yourself because you're the most important person in your life so why no treat yourself well.  If you don't LOVE you how can anyone else ever LOVE you... Remember, LOVE is made up of so many choices good, bad, wright, wrong, difficult or just plain crazy... that's why it's called LOVE it's something we all need.

This is the DAY of the year when everyone gets a LOVE pass and all is forgiven so have a wonderful VALENTINE'S DAY with yourself first of all and with the ONE'S you LOVE secondly... 

SIDE NOTE:  If there's someone you LOVE and you want to be with them don't let angry, fear, doubt, selfishness or anything else hold you back today from being with the one you truly LOVE go after what you REALLY want you'll never know what could have been if you don't try to figure it OUT...Sometimes you have to keep trying if it's really LOVE an only you know that deep in your HEART where only you and God live...

QUESTION:  "So can we keep this LOVE going for the rest of the year?"  because I would hate to think that it get all used up in one day.  Our HEARTS should never be so guarded that we only let LOVE in once a year on VALENTINE'S DAY.  Please think about what I'm saying to you on this vey special day...
                                     
                                      HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALL OF YOU!!!
                                   My wish is that YOU receive everything YOU hoped for... 

                                                              SMOOOCHESSS!!!