Saturday, August 15, 2015

Thursday, August 13, 2015

LOVE is worth the FIGHT!!!

It's always my pleasure to write this blog
because to deals with real life and real issues
In today's world people forget to be selfless it all about what they have and what they want but what you need to remember is if you get everything you want and have all you desire and have no one to share it with, "what have you really got?"  We are human beings an what that means is that we're meant to have a partner/mate in our lives.  Love isn't easy but it's always worth it if your in Love the the right person.  Know that in this life nothing is easy but if it's Love it's always worth fighting for.  You may think that you're to good to fight or even make ass out of yourself for someone you Love  but the truth is it's when you make an ass out to yourself that the other person knows how much you Love them.  My thought is this you make an ass out of yourself for everything else in your life your job, business, kids, family, friends, etc. so why not the individual you say you Love so very much.    You see Love is and isn't a choose an if you're going to ever have it and keep it you must take the risk or chance on getting a few bruises but in the end you will be just fine because you have the one you truly Love.  Ask yourself this question, "Is having the person you Love worth being a little uncomfortable at time?"  Be very honest with yourself because know one wants to be alone forever.  Take your time to figure out if you've allowed others to make your Love choices and if so... why? Do they know you better than you know yourself?  Can they make you happy when you're alone?  Are they given up the Love of their life for you?  Or they with their Love and your home alone?  Think hard about these questions because they will give you answers you may not want to realize.  

Sometime you see individuals an say to yourself or maybe even someone else they don't match or she's with him for the money or he's with her for sexy but what you don't understand or know is that their together because of the Love they feel and have for one another.  And, that's stronger than physical thing or material thing.  Yes, you have individuals who are together for those reason but they don't usually last very long because sooner or later one of the individuals will always want more out of the relationship.  I've been on this earth for a little bit and I've learn that if you don't have Love you don't really have anything.  You were made to Love and be Loved so don't try to stop what really comes natural to you and every other individual.  We are build from Love so why it that we think we shouldn't want to be Loved.  You see people need to realize that it's okay to Love someone so much that you will do anything to make them happy and bring them joy because they do the same for you. When it comes to your relationship you must remember it's you and that person you're in the relationship with an that's it outside individual don't really matter because they don't know what you have with your partner/mate...  We all must remember that "relationships is hard work but it's always worth doing and worth working for" with the right individual.  I know individuals that have spent their whole life looking for the right person to Love and haven't found it yet an what they don't get is that Love has come to them but they weren't will to do the work to have Love and that's so very sad.  You maybe passing Love by because it made you a little uncomfortable when it doesn't look like what you thought it should or would.  While what you need to know is it's not always about getting your way it's about give and take what that means is sometime you have to give more than your get and take more than you want to sometimes.  Remember, your mate does the same thing with you also you just don't realize it because you maybe in your feelings about something that's going on between the two of you.  As I said before I've been around for a little bit and I've seen a lot of things but the one thing I know for sure is that without Love in your life you will always have a whole in it and you will spend more time trying to full it with empty things that don't matter at all.  Again, it's not always easy but Love is always worth it and you must remember why you wanted to be with an individual in order to keep it together.  We all get really busy with our life situation but we must never forget about our Lover, friend, partner, mate, etc. because at the end of the day being alone isn't all it's cracked up to be.  When you've had true Love and you know what it is you'll always want more of it.  Love can give you a high that no drug or substance could ever fill and to think all you have to do is open your heart to what's in front of you.  Because I can promise you this when they aren't there anymore you'll be left wondering why there gone and it's because you forgot the most important thing in your life.  I get it Loving someone else may not be easy but if it was easy then everyone would be doing it... when Love comes your remember not to hold back and give it all you've got take the risk because surely it's worth the chance.  You may just find yourself happier than you've ever been and that's always worth the risk.   Loving another individual isn't easy because you both are different but because you're different you can see life it such a beautiful way and that's through one another eyes.  Remember a Love worth having is a Love worth fighting for...

SMOOOCHESSS!!!

Friday, May 29, 2015

The Naked Truth Revealed: Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT

The Naked Truth Revealed: Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT: When I got married I thought it was forever but it didn't happen like that so I had to started over.  Now I didn't get a divorce m...

Starting Over Is Easy BUT It's Worth IT

When I got married I thought it was forever but it didn't happen like that so I had to started over.  Now I didn't get a divorce my husband passed away but what I've learned is that if it's a divorce or a death it can fill the same way.  Women and Men have told me that it's worst when you have a divorce than when there's a death because with a divorce the person is still walking around where you can still see them all the time.  And when I thought about it I realized that these individuals were correct both divorce and death of someone you Loved hurts just as bad.  So, I started to ask questions about how hard was it for them to started over again and to my surprise a lot of them were having a really hard time at it...  Some couldn't rap there heads around the fact that the person they had Loved for such a long time wasn't there with them anymore... others where stuck in the position of they couldn't believe that the person they'd Loved for so long didn't want to be with them anymore for whatever reason... and then there was those who where still living like the person was coming back to them and then there was those who where like me that was just lost in the madness of there everyday lives...  Know matter what the situation was I found that it wasn't easy for all these individuals to started there lives over after they believe that they had found the Loves of there lives.  So I decided to ask some more individuals about "how they started over and how was it when they realized they had to started over in order to survive?"  And this is what I learned from them...

One woman told me that one day she woke up and Life had just passed here by and she couldn't remember years of her Life because she was going through the motions but not really living her Life. Once she realize that Life wasn't waiting for her to finish grieving her relationship she pick herself up and started one day at a time too Live the Life she had now not the Life she had with her spouse, partner, etc... it was had but day by day she got better until one day she was living and everything was normal again at least it was her knew normal an she was enjoying her Life again...  When I saw the smile on her face I knew that she was truly happy and it was worth all the pain she was feeling because she had made a knew friend (herself) and it was awesome. You see she knew that one she had to stop living in the pass with her ghost of the pass but she needed to live in her past with her reality which was that she was single and that wasn't going to change unless she got out and met knew individuals.  She knew it was going to be easy but it was truly worth the pain of starting over and now she's living everyday to the fullest because you can't depended on anyone to make you happy that's a job only you can do for yourself...  This is what she let me know she learn through the whole process of becoming the individual she is today... You see she had been a good wife, great mother, good sister, good daughter and a great friend to everyone in here Life but she had never spent enough time being great to herself so when she was left alone she was lost... thank God now she knows that she was never alone just a little lost...  You may say while what happen to this individual and how's her Life going now?  I can tell you that she is doing AWESOME and I know this because this woman is ME...  Lose isn't easy at all but you can overcome it and move pass it...

I've learn that things happen to you everyday and they will continue to happen but it how you as an individual handles them as to how they are going to effect you Life an so I say to everyone reading this you must LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH because LIFE is just to short to waste on what was...  I hope you enjoyed my Life Story an you come bad for more...  Be Blessed and Keep Your Head Up at all Times because you don't want you LIFE to pass you by....  SMOOOCHESSS!!!



Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Is It Real LOVE

Everyone needs to remember that Love is a strong emotion an when you're saying it to someone make sure you are ready for what comes along with the word.  I know there are a lot of people that said the words I Love You an don't have a clue as to what it really takes to Love someone.  I can only speak from a women's point of view but if you are in a relationship with someone before the words I Love you comes out of your mouth make sure you mean it.  Don't play with someones heart or there emotions because you could do damage to that individual that will never be repaired and when that person goes into there next relationship the new person will suffer from your action.  Falling in Love is a beautiful thing just know who you're falling in Love with before you commit your heart to someone because they may not be capable of Loving you the way you deserve to be Love.  I've learned a lot about Love in the last two years and I found out that just because someone says they Love you doesn't mean they really do.  I fell in Love with someone who just didn't know how to Love me an because of that we aren't together today.  Now, I'm sure that if you asked him did I know how to Love him he would say I didn't.    But I can say that I've learned a lot about pain and heartbreak most of all I've learned about how to Love someone with all my heart and for that I'm so very thankful.   Love is an emotion that most people really don't know how to handle and other abuse.  And I've learn in these last two and half years how Love isn't something you can't control it's something you freely do and hope that the person you're doing it with Loves you the same way.  If I could say anything to all the individuals who read this blog it would be Love yourself so that when Love comes your way you know what it looks like.  It's not going to always going to be a walk in the park but if it's Love it will be worth it.  You may say how do you know that and I would say to you "what is life if you don't have Love?"  It can be a very lonely life without someone to Love... As human beings we are made to be in Love so if you Love someone don't let anything stand in the way of you being with that person because you may not find that kind of Love again in your lifetime...

Remember:  Love isn't easy but it's always worth fighting for....so don't let it disappear because you didn't have your way.  Love is more than having your way it's work and sometimes it knowing how to pick your battles or just knowing how to let the other person have their way...  Love is always Give and Take...



SMOOOCHESSS!!!
                                                                            

Sunday, April 5, 2015

What EASTER is truly about

Easter is the day we celebrate JESUS CHRIST and His resurrection...  We celebrate the Love of CHRIST and what He did for all of us...  So today remember that it's not about the way you put you outfit together, the way you wear your hair, the eggs you hide for you kids to find, the Easter Bunny or the food you cook today.  It's about how much you Love CHRIST and how much he Loved you, so when you go out today to church, lunch, or where ever you're going today thank GOD for the chance to celebrate the one who gave His life for all of us JESUS CHRIST...  Today remember that this day all about the Love of CHRIST...what He has done for you and the ones you Love...  This is just a note to all my readers to remind you about what's important today an that's JESUS CHRIST our Savior...  Enjoy the life you're living, the love ones you have and the friends you have because that's what this life you've been giving is all about...

Have a Blessed Easter!!!

SMOOOCHESSS!!!