Monday, October 22, 2012

The Organizer: My Journey Day 12 "Why Is Love so Hard?"

The Organizer: My Journey Day 12 "Why Is Love so Hard?": I woke up this morning thinking what's today going to be like.  I wonder if today was the day I was going to be able to handle all the th...

My Journey Day 12 "Why Is Love so Hard?"

I woke up this morning thinking what's today going to be like.  I wonder if today was the day I was going to be able to handle all the things that came my way.  And, then I realized that I don't have to handle my day because it's already been handle for me.  God knew how this day was going to go and I don't have to make things happen myself because things are what they are.

So, then I started thinking about the conversation I had with a girlfriend about love.  I asked the question "Why is love so hard for some individuals and for others it's so very easy?"  And, as we started talking she said something that is so very true "it's only as hard as an individuals makes it."  And, in that moment I realize she was correct you choose to love or not to love someone or something.  Individuals really choose either to love or not to love because they want to take a risk of being happy with someone or being unhappy by there selves.  When I started to think on this subject I think about loving myself enough to always take a risk on loving others.  I don't ever want to give up on happiness for myself or with another individual.  I guess what I'm saying is when you lose something or someone important don't lose yourself in the process.  We can miss someone or something but we must make sure we are living a life full of joy and happiness because you can't get one hour of any day that has passed back so please live with a sense of purpose on purpose.

So, the question today is "Why is Love so Hard?" and the answer to that question is very simple.  "Love isn't Hard it's what You make It".  It can be romantic, friendship, partner to child, or family love it's just a choose and "Yes" it's risky but there's nothing better than being in love or loving someone or something to the fullest.  I wish individuals would stop thinking of love as a technical thing and started thinking of love as an experience that can for fill every part of your heart and life.  Please listen to me about this subject loving someone or something is really a great thing so if you can love someone do it and if you love something do it with know doubt.  Because if you do you will always wonder "what if" I had taken a risk on love where would I be...  People all I'm doing is telling you to live and love other individuals because you may find that love is a blessing.  I'm closing today's journal entry I hope it help you to think different when it comes to love and loving on different levels.

Until tomorrow.... Smooooocheeeesssss

My Journey day 11

Let's go to Brunch

Last night I got a call from my girlfriend Robin and she said where going to Charlotte for brunch at the Cheesecake Factory I'll be at you house by 8am. You see we had been planning to go to the Cheesecake Factory for over eight months but just hasn't done it yet. But, when you lose something or someone so suddenly you stop putting things off you started doing all the things you've been putting on the back burner. So, as my girlfriend is talking to me about our outing I realize that she's just making sure that I don't forget how to live even though my lost is so great and all I could say was thank you God a friend that always knows when I need a little pick me up.  I'm so happy to have a life with great friends to help me get through some of the worst days and nights of my life.

This morning we are on our way to the Cheesecake Factory and we have to stop in Columbia to pick up another friend (Nathalie) and head to Charlotte to enjoy a day of food, shopping and fun.  I don't think I could ask for more than that.  I can say this without any doubt in my mind life is to short not to take a risk on living it to the fullest.  God had a plan in mind when he created everyone of us and we would be selling ourselves very short if we didn't live a well balanced life to the fullest.  You may say that I don't really know what you are going through and you are correct but what I do know is that sitting around alone isn't going to make your life any better.  Go out and do something you've never done before and enjoy every moment without thinking or worrying about tomorrow.  Live for today and think for today because you aren't promise tomorrow.

I'll talk with you soon!!!!! Smoooooocheesssss

A little Information about Fashion


Fashion is something we deal with every day. Even people who say they don't care what they wear choose clothes every morning that say a lot about them and how they feel that day.  There's one thing for certain in the fashion world change will always come but it will always be something that's been hear before. As consumers we are constantly being bombarded with new fashion ideas from music, videos, books, and television that shape our though about what we wear and like.  Movies also have an impact on what individual will wear.

What or Who dictates your Fashion?

Musicians and other cultural icons have influenced what individuals are wearing, but so have political figures and royalty. Magazines report on what Michelle Obama is wearing and you have women looking for the same outfit so they can look like the First Lady.  Even individuals in the 1700s looked over fashion magazines to see the latest styles so they can see the trends. Women and dressmakers outside the French court relied on sketches to see what was going on. The famous French King Louis XIV said that fashion is a mirror. Even Louis himself was renowned for his style, which tended towards extravagant laces and velvet.

Clothes separate people into different categories...

Your clothes can reveal what group’s you are apart of.  When you are in high school, the groups have names: "goths, skaters, preps, nerds." Styles show who you are, but they also create stereotypes and distance between groups. For instance, a businessperson might look at a young girl or boy with green hair and multiple piercings as a freak and outsider. But to another person, they are strict conformist. They dress a certain way to deliver the message of rebellion and separation, but within that group, they are in uniform. Acceptance or rejection of a style is a reaction to the society we live in.  Fashion is a language which tells a story about the person/individual who's wearing it. "Clothes create a wordless means of communication that we all understand and follow in some way. 

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Journey to Total Peace Day 10

Today, I realize that you can't be a person who allow people to make major decision about your life. When you experience a big lost you have to understand that people are going to come around for different reason. Some are their to help you and others are there to hinder your progress you've got to be able to know the difference between them. See a lot of people want to tell you how to live and what you should be thinking about your knew life and really they don't know how your old life was. So, how is it that they can tell you how your knew life is going to work. What's amazing to me is how people you've never really spoken to want to now give you advice on how to heal. I need someone to tell me how that works. People want to tell you what to do when their lives are a hot mess. Can someone tell me how can a person like that give you advice on anything? Please let me know what you think about this. I don't have much to say today because I'm feeling pretty good where I'm at in my journey on this.

Until tomorrow Smooooooccchhesss

Friday, October 5, 2012

The Journey Day 7

This is day 7 and this was another hard day. I woke up this morning feeling sad and overwhelmed because I'm now doing everything. What I mean by that is now I'm running two businesses and building a whole knew business while running my household. Before their where two people keeping this lifestyle going now there's just me at least that's what I was thinking. This can make even the most organized person want to retreat an give up. And, this morning that's what I was going to do. Until my brother walk in my bedroom and saw that I was crying. You see my brother helps me run one of my business he's my field supervisor. Anyway he asked me was I alright and I just started crying and feeling sorry for myself. I pulled the comforter over my head an cried like a little child. He didn't tell me not to cry he said let it and that's what I did an then he wanted to know what happen to make me feel like I was feeling. I started to tell him and I started crying again. He got up off the bed and went to get me tissue to wipe my eyes and then he asked what did I need help with. At the time I forgot for a moment that I wasn't alone but he (my brother) let me know that I've always got someone willing to help if I will just ask. So, I told him what was the issue that I had to get payroll out for the people who worked for me and there wasn't enough money to pay everyone. And, he gave me the best advice that a big sister could ever get from her little brother. He said "You can't make something be there that's not there". Don't worry God knows what you need to take care of your employees and it's going to be there in time for you to pay everyone there checks. When he said it I would like to tell you I was totally sure it was true but that wasn't the case. I said yes you're right out of my mouth but my mind and heart was saying Lord what I'm I going to do. And the issue with that is God had already told me what he was going to do through my brother if I would just believe in Him and His word. But I let my brother leave for work an as soon as my brother left I got back in the bed an started my pitty party again. Then the phone rang an it was one of my girlfriends with a question about real estate. She didn't know I was having a bad day but God did. So she's talking to me about her situation an how it was going so wrong and then she said but God said He would never leave me or forsake me so I know everything is going to be alright and at that moment I got up and put on my workout clothes an went to the gym. You see what I learned this morning was if I'll do my part an believe, God will do His part an show up and show out. I was looking at the fact that I needed the money for payroll and God was saying just believe and I'll give you everything you need and more. And, just like my brother said God gave me more than enough.

So, I have to say that even when you don't know what to do God always has the right answer for you. Just believe and I promise you will receive. It may not be the way you want or though it was going to be but it will always be the way He (God) designed it to be. That should make you feel good right now. I don't know how you are feeling or what you are thinking but this I do know everything will be alright if you trust and believe in Him (God)... I can say that my day did started the way I wanted it to but it ended the way God designed it to. And all I can say is THANK YOU LORD FOR BLESSING ME!!! because He didn't have to but He did...

I know we have our own journeys to walk but don't try to walk it without God because you want get to very far. My day was full and I'm glad I got up to enjoy it. The good , bad and most of all the Blessed I've truly enjoyed it all. I hope you are enjoying this journey because when it ends you want to say it was totally worth it.

Until tomorrow Smooooooochesssss!!!

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

The Organizer: The Journey Continues (day 6)

The Organizer: The Journey Continues (day 6): Day 6 of the JOURNEY Well, today really started out bad I was feeling sorry for myself and didn't want to get up out of bed.  So, I cance...

The Journey Continues (day 6)

Day 6 of the JOURNEY

Well, today really started out bad I was feeling sorry for myself and didn't want to get up out of bed.  So, I cancel one of my early morning appointments so that I could just be in the moment.  I wanted to make sure that I wasn't just running around staying busy so that I wouldn't have to feel the pain of my lost.  And, once I laid there for another hour I figured out that it wasn't my pain I was afraid of it was myself.  I wanted a life where I could live and just be who I was meant to be.  Please don't misunderstand me I would have never wanted this to happen, but it did and I can't do anything about it other than keep my memories and believe that God always has a plan.  What I'm saying is that when you say something make sure you can handle it because God listen to what you're saying and He always wants to give you the desires of your heart.  So, make sure your heart is lined up with His..Okay!  

Once I got up and started my day I went to meet a colleague at the office to talk business.  And, we where talking about how life can turn upside down in a moments notice and it can leave you thinking what will I do next.  So I started to really think about that an I realize life doesn't stop because you stop it keeps right on going and if you don't wake up an join the living it will pass you right by without you ever knowing.  Then I took a look at what I still have an I decided to make lemonade.   I spoke with a few clients on the phone and took one out to view homes.  Once I really got started I wasn't feeling as if I was a victim of my situation I started to feel as if I was the master of my journey and let me tell you something there's know better feeling then to know that you are alive an making the rules for you journey with God's guidance.  So, as you can see if you stay down you will miss life but if you get up you will participate it the journey of a lifetime.  I know I am thanking God for a great family, wonderful friends and all the new relationship to come.  

Until tomorrow Smoooooochesssss!!!